“Why are you digging ditches? Isn’t that something that prisoners do?”
Sure. But I get to be outside, use my body, and I’m not cleaning toilets. Your point?
The last thing anyone between the ages of ten and twenty-five wants to hear is “It builds character.” Whatever you are trying to get us to do or endure, we know it builds character and we know it’s good for us. It just feels like you’re giving us a condescending pat on the head and a “life gets better, sort of and we know what we are doing, sort of.”
That being said, you are right most of the time. If there is something that more of the Western world needs to have experience in, it is physical labor.
When I first arrived in Wanaka, I answered an ad for a job for yard work and wood stacking. I sent a text and before I knew it, I was scheduled to arrive at a suburban address the next day. Slightly nervous and ready to fight anyone who told me I couldn’t work in the dirt, I knocked on the door.
“Hi! Nice to meet you…I thought he got a boy.”
“My name is a bit gender neutral.”
“Well it’s quite heavy digging. Do you think you can handle it?”
A flicker of uncertainty sent my thoughts to the bulging disc in my lower spine and my occasional limp. “Yes. I do.”
Sure enough she brought me outside and explained the job. I was to dig a trench around the back, side, and part of the front of the house in order to install insulation. It needed to be well over a foot deep in some cases and about six inches wide at least. Stubborn and determined to prove myself a hard worker, I attacked it.
Seven hours later and covered in dirt and sweat, I climbed into my friend’s car with a request to return the next day.
My employers wanted to keep me around. I dislocated my knee cap and they asked if I could be back at work four days later. Upon my return I was told “Under no circumstances are you to push your knee too hard.” They fed me lunch, sent me home with loads of organic apples, and recommended me to friends as a reliable laborer. After being gone only a week, I walked up the driveway to warm smiles and genuine hugs. Homes are good places to be.
When you are relatively small and female, there are bound to be stories associated with your penchant for hard labor.
As I was moving dirt one day, two electricians walk around the corner. The first to arrive engaged me in polite and pleasantly surprised conversation. Then the second walked around the corner.
“Who are you?”
“My name is Locke.”
“You don’t look like the sort of person to be digging ditches!”
Mm. Don’t I? Well. “I don’t look like the sort of person who should be doing a lot of the things I do.”
One hour later: “Wow. You’re good at stacking wood.”
The funny part was, I wasn’t at that point. Maybe he was just surprised I could carry armfuls of wood???
Half an hour later: “Bye doll!”
That was the only time I spilled a wheelbarrow of logs.
I walked up to my boss. “I don’t really like being called ‘Doll.'”
“Did he call you doll?”
“I’m sorry. People can be a little backwards down here. I’m sure you noticed.”
There are a lot of reasons why I loved working for them, but I think that response to the condescending sexism is the top reason.
If you are able, I encourage you to work in the dirt. Have your kids do garden labor. Help them see that the world needs those who sweat and haul as much as they need the artists. The fruit pickers, the construction workers, the garden workers, the factory workers, the miners are all doing the things you have the privilege of ignoring.
And to those who have left all they know to find grueling conditions and a culture that does not want them,
Thank you for “stealing” those jobs.
Because we all know the U.S. doesn’t want to do them anyway.